Not everyone is going to like you

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Goodness. This subject is a tough one. I am and have been one of those people that yearns for people to like me. If someone doesn't like me, I can and have taken it very personal, when at times, it wasn't personal at all. I can try my hardest. Be the most intentional. Keep in touch. Reach out, whatever it is and some people....they just aren't going to connect with me and me with them.

When you think for yourself. When you're bold. When you are who you are - these are the prices you pay for not everyone liking you. If you stand for nothing. If you believe in nothing. If you don't have purpose, it's easy to be well liked because you'll never have opposition. However, you are responsible for the energy you bring to the room. Me being me and you being you isn't an excuse to be rude, hurtful, and mean to people you don't connect with - there is never an excuse for having poor character.

However, the things beyond your control, well, I've put together a few things I've noticed that help me get over the fact that I'm not going to connect with everyone:

I assess my intentions. If it's something that I am doing wrong, I do apologize. If it's something I've done to offend someone, I apologize still. I make sure any non connection is a result of things beyond my control.

Which leads me to my next encouragement, I must be comfortable being who I am. Knowing who I am and what I value are key connections to others. So, if I don't share common values with someone, it's okay and no one's fault. Embrace difference.

Adding to being self aware, I am grateful for who I do have connections with. I love surrounding myself with people who challenge me and push me forward, but also with positive people who bring good energy, believe in me, and love me despite my awful flaws.

Finally, I don't play the blame game (That's a lie, I do at first, but after I get over myself and my immaturity it works). I take responsibility for my part and let the other person take responsibility for theirs. If they don't like me for things beyond my control, it really is going to be okay. Monday still comes after Sunday y'all :) ...I actually really had to think on that one....Yikes, is it Friday yet?

So, for those of you are emotional diplomats or yearn for the acceptance and approval of others, just remember to embrace yourself, accept the person that may not like you, and move forward. Chances are you have plenty of people who already accept you...So you do you!  xoxo :)

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