Harmonizing goal setting and being present

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Achieve by August 2016
I've always been an avid goal setter. I can't tell you how many goal lists I have - short term, long term, a travel bucket list, and a yearly priorities list just to name a few. I basically take a life inventory of myself. It's okay if you rolled your eyes, I did too.

In the last year and a half or so, my goal was to learn to be present. I've always admired those who could be so consistently present. Whether it be conversation or quality time, they're just there 100% of the time.

I've been more of a 60/40. 60% mentally present and 40% planning ahead or wandering elsewhere. I noticed how it was affecting my relationships and completely feeding into my already awful perfectionist habits.

So, I've in a way, taken a break from goals. I've just lived, breathed, and pretended to be spontaneous and I can't tell you how freeing that's felt. Even through photos, my face looks more peaceful and joyful than it did a few years ago.
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However, I'm bad with moderation...in just about everything. If I'm focused in on something, I can leap from one end to the other. So, I've recently been thinking, when was the last time I set personal goals? Ones outside my job?.......Yeah.......

So, I opened a notebook that I had written 20 goals to achieve in  20 years as I did a 10 goals to achieve in 10 years - and I achieved all, but 1! After crossing some off, I decided to add a few more to make it 20 again.

It boils down to this for me, there has to be a happy medium of wanting to achieve the most for myself every single moment and being present to enjoy what I've achieved and learn from what I haven't. Maybe one day I won't be so hard on myself, but I'm human and it's in my nature to want to be better and to do more.
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