Dating Younger Men
Sunday, November 26, 2017 • dating, dating younger, love, Relationships
Precursor: This is written from a hetero/gender normative viewpoint which is my life narrative, but I do believe it is applicable to all folks.
This post has been in my notebook for some time. It’s no secret on my home team that I date younger.
And when you live in a society constructed with social norms that as a woman your love life is dictated by your biological clock, which at times means ideally dating older or the same age...it can be a little stressful.
Because you can be a 40 year old man dating a 25 year old woman and no one bats an eye. But when you’re a woman older than 25 dating a younger man...people have all the opinions in the world.
But dating younger, I’ve had much healthier relationships than dating men my own age or older. This isn’t ALWAYS the case, but this has been my personal and general experience.
So, I compiled the main reasons I’ve enjoyed dating younger the last few years:
They respect my world doesn’t revolve around them. That I have my own life, my own friends, my own bank account, my own goals. He is part of my life, but not the center of it.
They don’t find any of the above as competition, or feel inferior or feel "less of a man"...
Younger guys brag to their friends about me, but not only in physical terms, most often it has been about, "She is so great at xyz"...and it is so refreshing to hear they're proud of me rather than intimidated.
They typically haven’t lost their soul on the corporate climb or their ethics to the dollar sign.
And they also want to stay in and drink wine and maybe later hit the bars with our friends. If they are Gen Y, (I am a Gen X/Y cusp), they are also used to seeing both types of women that are usually labeled stay at home Mom or Working Mom or a combination of both, and they are willing to see what's best for the relationship / family.
Most are less jaded about life. They offer a fresh perspective into my own life. I’m viewed as an equal partner.
And just because they're younger doesn’t mean they aren’t ready to “settle down” or not be committed….Actually most of the younger men I’ve dated want ALL of those things.
I find that many of the stereotypes of dating younger men...aren’t true, and something I’ve really learned is that age doesn’t mean much...but character does. Age doesn’t determine if you’re a good significant other or will treat your partner with care and love.
And finally, I watched a show that made me giggle and a woman said, "Younger men respect you more than men your own age, but you will have more responsibilities". I'd take responsibility over respect, any day.
FUN
Sunday, November 5, 2017 • career, personal happiness, Relationships, self care, self-love, work life balance, work life negotiation
FUN.
Social media is funny.
I post the lively, fun, usually out and about moments.
But in reality, I work a nurse's hours.
The majority of my days are spent 12+ hours working with little to no breaks and usually rushing and overlapped events until I come home.
And if I let it….
That's what my life becomes.
To do lists, frantically running around, getting things done, sending emails, scheduling and hosting meetings...becoming a tapped out person with an underwhelmed soul.
SO. With that said…it sounds simple...but I just wanted to add FUN in my life.
I know, so simple right?...But I live in extremes. I am either having the time of my life or I am so buckled down I forget that I have a life outside of my career(s).
So, I bought a pink glittered notebook with blank pages and
no lines.
And every day, I color out my day.
My art and handwriting are not cute, at all by the way.
And surprisingly it still has been my favorite daily ritual.
Adding fun was inspired by yet again, Present over Perfect.
Before handing off the book Present Over Perfect to a friend, I re-read some of the chapters I highlighted, and this "candy throwing" page resonated with why I decided to add some no lines, overly dramatic glittery notebook fun into my daily ritual.
Because I want to throw candy...and not just at designated candy throwing times:
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