Back to the Basics
Saturday, April 3, 2021 • career, Career Coach, Life Coach, Side hustle
Here we are 3 years later and I don't intend to leave. I've planted some roots. But what do you do when you're not forced to slow down? When you're not forced to relax.
Unfortunately, due to some health concerns and just some life events that have happened in the last month, I've been forced to really think - What belongs in my life? What can I shed? I want to hold onto something for as long as possible.
But when I thought of what things should go and what should stay, one I grappled with the longest is my Coaching business. I have been serving as a Life/Career Coach for 14 years, but 4 years as my own business. I have worked with over 500 clients as of this January ranging from professional athletes, fashion designers putting their lines into NYFW, politicians, pageant titleholders, and anything under the creative sun. This life even inspired me to bring my podcast dream out of hibernation. Life has changed and so have my priorities. When I was single, or when Aaron worked longer nights, I had no issue doing resumes, mock interviews, and cover letters late into the night or on my Lunch breaks on Wednesdays. But now? I just want to focus on my health, my marriage, and the other responsibilities that are more long term.
This really hurts. 14 years of my life, I have been cultivating relationships with people I have become friends with, they're not just clients. I've danced at their weddings, held their babies, watched them go through the darkest parts of their life and career transitions as well as their peaks.
I've spent almost half of my life Coaching. It's what helped me buy plane tickets home, that extra tank of gas at the end of a long pay period. It even helped pay off my old car 2 years earlier than expected. This side hustle has held me physically together and emotionally, it has been part of my identity for so long.
But in this season, I hear God calling me back to the basics. The fundamental things that make me whole, and a few, yes just a FEW things that are fun and meaningful. For someone like me, for people like me. We want to think we can do it all and all at once, but we can't. I can't. Admitting that in this season of life is SO difficult. Unfortunately it took a series of events for me to even make this decision to say goodbye for now to Coaching. I was nervous and have a lot of imposter syndrome thinking - But what if I want to come back? Will my clients still be there? Will new ones think I am relevant? And honestly, it doesn't matter. I have become more drawn to the idea and action of reinventing myself. I've done it more than a dozen of times, and I am sure will continue has I gain more time on this earth.
My life has changed dramatically in the last 3 years, and who knows where life will take me (us) next. All I know is that I plan to focus on the basics...Plus the things I know I am meant to carry out 2021 in.
This includes re-shaping this blog. It's almost humorous I am still on Blogger. But it's so simple. It's an extension of my journal typically, and as I go back to the Basics, that includes more writing, more journaling. All the things that make me whole.
I sent an email to my clients - Thank you so much for allowing me into your lives. When I started coaching, I wanted to impact people's transitions, reminding folks that transitions are supposed to be wild, unsettling, and makes you feel like you don't want how to get from point A to B. I loved the getting "unstuck" part of the journey they were on.
But it's time to focus on my own journey. This feels good, this feels peaceful.
Relationships with Reyes Scholarship - 2021
Monday, February 15, 2021 • Cash Award, Money for Community Service, Money for School, Recognition program, Scholarship, Scholarships
Relationships with Reyes, our Podcast highlights all types of relationships. We also think the relationship we have with the communities we live in is important. That is why our Podcast is giving a $1,000+ scholarship to a role model who is 16+, who gives back to their community! Our deadline to apply is April 1, 2021. Please visit http://www.relationshipswithreyes.com to apply and learn more about our scholarship. We are also accepting donations via Venmo @ReyesScholarship until May 13!
Aguascalientes, Mexico - Part II
Thursday, January 28, 2021 • Aguascalientes, Aguascalientes Mexico, Bridal party, Destination Wedding, International Wedding, Things to do in Aguascalientes Mexico, Travel, Wedding, Wedding Party
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Scholarship Fund: Relationships with Reyes
Monday, January 25, 2021 • Podcast, Relationships with Reyes, Scholarship
Throughout the pandemic, I know I am not the only one to feel helpless. The fixers? We want to fix everything. You're sad? We want you to be happy. You're surviving? We want you to thrive.
Cliche, but this statement has never been wrong: Some times there are things we can't fix, but as a collective group, we can make an impact.
During the pandemic, I told my husband I wanted to bring a dream out from hibernation that I had been thinking about since 2018 - I wanted to start a Podcast with guests to talk about all different dynamics of relationships. Him being my tech guy, bought me a microphone at Christmas and he asks every week, "When is the next episode?". We have 18 planned episodes for Season 1 with 2 already having been posted for 2021. You can subscribe to us on ANCHOR or search us on Spotify - Relationships with Reyes.
Another component we wanted to provide was a modest Scholarship (Cash Award) to someone who is a role model in their community.
We aren't rich. We live okay. We struggle just like many. But we know that any amount we were comfortable with could make someone's day - fund an event they are passionate about, pay a bill, and whatever it was, we just wanted to recognize someone who made an impact in their community. Because our communities need some love and people need some love.
We aren't selecting a winner, we have a team of volunteers and a selection committee to do that for us - More on that later. We want to remain not bias and truly have people from all over the USA choose the recipient, we are just here to supply the microphone to amplify this!
Throughout the the last week, I reached out to family and friends to donate, and it brought the total up to almost double! Heart feels overwhelmed. I do so many projects, but I'd have to say this one takes the Gold. When you get married, you likely have already found things that you as a couple enjoy doing together. Luckily, one of those things for my husband and I is serving others. We get so much joy of feeding people, loving people, and enjoying who they are.
But I love what a small group of people can accomplish. I love waking up feeling like we got this. It's the kind of generosity I needed to hear and see after a year of...a divisive election, peoples rights threatened, humanity I'd say at an all time low of empathy. So, thank you to those who have already contributed!
If you connected with these sentiments, please check us out at http://www.relationshipswithreyes.com. Please share the link and our flyer below.
If you would like to contribute monetarily, you can venmo us at @reyesscholarship. After, if you can email us at relationshipswithreyes@gmail.com with a photo and what you're passionate about, we would love to feature you on our website donor's section.
If you are a program that aligns with our mission - We would love to list you as an affiliate and email our applicants your information during the waiting process to hear back from results.
Aguascalientes, Mexico - Part I
Saturday, January 23, 2021 • Aguascalientes, Aguascalientes Mexico, El Parian, Gorditas, International Wedding, Mexico, Things to do in Aguascalientes Mexico, Tourism, Travel, Wedding, Wedding Party
Woooeyyy, this has been sitting in my drafts since late October:
TRAVELING.
I miss seeing and feeling NEW. New foods. Music. People. Clothing. Architecture. Undiscovered parts of history I was unaware of. All of it. I miss traveling and learning and taking in all the sights, smells, and being in awe of a new place.
I think most of us can collectively agree we miss being able to go somewhere without restrictions.
Aguascalientes wasn't new to Aaron, but for me? I've only been to Tijuana, Nogales, & Mexico City. Looking through photos, I already loved all the architecture in the capitol city - Romantic and colonial. But seeing it in real life...Breath taking. The city is so clean, the people are SO friendly, and yes the food was so good, but the juice drinks!? I just drooled. I think I ordered a Mango juice every day.
During the Wedding week, my 2 cousins flew down early. We grew up taking trips every 2-3 years (We are all 1-1.5 years apart in age) and this year, it would have been 3 years since our trip in San Francisco. We were in High School at the same time and in the same school. We lived in a small town, so we had to be very creative in what we did. We've fought, we've always made up, and we would absolutely fight anyone that tried to mess with one of us. Whether we were 8 or 28, it still holds true - They're the closest thing to sisters I had/have.
Normally...We are known for breaking bones, needing surgery, or getting concussions when we are together. Not sure why, but we are so "blessed" with being so clumsy! I am happy to report, NO BROKEN BONES, sickness, or emergency trips this time around! I also loved the private time they got with Aaron and also so we could just enjoy the city without having to think of Wedding things this particular day.
Our first stop was Templo de San Marcos, the Church we would be married in later that week. This was my first time seeing the Church NOT at night actually.
When you stepped inside, you actually felt like you were transported back in time. The physical Church was built from 1655-1765! You couldn't help but be engulfed in the tall arched ceilings, intricate murals, and the majesty of God's presence.
We walked our way down the main streets towards the city plaza area. We could smell fresh churros being made and coffee being poured. A smell we followed was a bakery - You couldn't miss it, we got there to grab some freshly baked items and to order some loaves of bread for the Ofrendas during the Ceremony at the Church for the Priest. Since we were there in early October, they were also already serving pan de muerto for Dia de Los Muertos in late October and early November - where many LatinX countries honor their loved ones who have passed. Along the way my cousin Kailey got her coffee beans, Kelle got some pastries, and Aaron got his Coconut water. All the vendors along the way were probably one of the highlights of the city. We loved supporting and indulging in all the family owned vendors.
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