Home is ...

Monday, July 11, 2016

One of the first questions I get when people find out I am not from California is that they ask if I'll ever move back to South Dakota? Or if I'll ever move back to Southern California? Or this or that.

I'm not sure where I'll end up in a year or 10 years. Because everywhere I have ever lived, left, and stayed has felt like home.

I loved running through the endless corn fields, gazing under the starry skies, and smelling the sweet clover roaming the prairie of my childhood home.

Just as much as I loved living in the Center of the Nation as a teenager, where farming, miles of gravel road, the 4th of July, and unsweetened iced tea is a way of life. Yes, South Dakota is home.

And I felt at home in all the towns in between from the Pacific Northwest, to my quaint college town, to traveling and staying on the East Coast and the South for Summers. To the Colorado Rocky Mountains and the flatirons of Boulder. These Summers were home to me and all its beauty and incredible friendships formed.

And to the city of angels. How my eyes lit up driving from Malibu to Santa Monica seeing the sprinkles of palm trees and breathing in the salt water on yet, another sunny day.

I learned I could live anywhere and find joy....rural, city, suburbia, and everything in between. LA is home.

Or winding up the coast to Monterey Bay. There is no comparable feeling to hugging the coastline in Big Sur or crashing into the waves at Carmel beach or sharing this part of the earth with one of the largest marine sanctuaries in the world. Monterey is home.

and then, there is San Francisco. New-ish and my stomach still erupts with butterflies driving in the morning and seeing the tall buildings sit comfortably next to the ocean or driving out and watching the city lights sparkle in my rear view mirror. Street festivals, the mix of city and nature, and all the eccentric people, San Francisco, you are home.

There are too many places, people, and things in all the places I have ever been to call 1 place home. I am home wherever I am and have been.

Academy of Art Fashion Show

Friday, July 1, 2016

Changing jobs mid-year was not easy feat. I wrote on my bittersweet departure from my former position and transitioned right into advising Fashion and Industrial Design students at the Academy of Art.

One of my favorite events from the Spring was their Annual Fashion Show. I loved all the pops of color and getting to see the work that students have worked so hard to produce.

When I first started working for the Academy, I was wearing someone’s North Face jacket and one of my student’s said, “I was an intern the year that line was just an idea”…It completely sparked immense joy to know that I have a part in helping our artists create items that I use every day.

Enjoy the show!

Ended up running into a friend here who is also an AAU student :)

Be your own negotiator

Thursday, June 30, 2016

People comment that I am busy. I always say, no my life is full. You can read why I say full instead of busy: BUSY IS A SICKNESS. A mentor told me we are constantly negotiating. We negotiate our relationships, goals, priorities, values, and so forth.

And because I love to say yes to TOO many things because I love so many people and projects, I have to negotiate my year, ahead of time.

Last week, some of my friends and I sat on Google plus at midnight my time and did some early life negotiation brainstorming. So, hopefully this is helpful for you too and chances are if you're still reading, it is because you need to negotiate.

I won't go into what I'm dreaming up for this next year, but I will show you how I negotiated this past year.

Home team:
WHO is your home team/tribe/squad? What relationships take precedent this year?
It sounds gross to write down your most important relationships, but for me, it's a visual of who I should be intentional about reaching out to. Every person's home team is different. I tend to have about 8-12 people on my home team. Some years I've had 4 and some I'd have closer to 20.

These are short (3 mos to 5 years) and long term goals (5 years and beyond). Finances. Family. Career. Etc. They should be measurable or it should have a feeling associated to the goal like success, respect, joy, freedom, etc.

DAILY, what is important to you? These are little things you do every day to work yourself up to the big picture.
A goal of mine was that I pray every day. So, I make room every single day to pray and write down prayers of family and friends. Sounds simple, but I stick to it because at the end of the year, I want to feel I have had a fruitful prayer life centered around those I care about!
Your priorities, if done consistently will achieve your goals. Both long term and short term.

FOCUSES ON ENERGY AND PRESENCE. How do you see yourself living your life? Are you focused? Carefree? Loving?
This past year, it was important I lived my year in peace despite needing some "quick" answers to some of my bigger life questions.

Skydiving. Zip lining. So many concerts each year. Farmers markets. These are less occurring experiences, maybe 1-2 turns into a hobby. But these are experiences because they will give you thrills. If you plan to make these experiences regular, they won't be thrills to you. They are a hobby.

Once you've finished editing your list, it's time to start adding these into your calendar. Maybe you are go with the flow. I think I'm both, I love to plan ahead, but knowing everything doesn't work out the way it is suppose to. But for me, what is the point in negotiating what's important to you and not following through? So, get organized, schedule things in advance that can be.

...this is A LOT of information. So, I pick a few to focus on and if I happen to work on all the others, great. If not, I won't beat myself up. Granted, I am still working on this as I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING.

So, hopefully this is helpful for you. This list doesn't happen in one hour at a coffee shop or out in nature. This takes awhile to craft and will evolve throughout the year.

So, start somewhere and stay consistent with it. Life is never perfect because people aren't. So, start negotiating the life you want and everything else will fall into place even if it's not the place you expect it to.

CopyRight © | Theme Designed By Hello Manhattan