Jayme Alexis LLC - In Review 2018

Sunday, December 23, 2018


No matter what you saw on social media...transitioning a business to a different state and retaining clientele that are willing to do virtual communication over face to face was a major loss for me in motivation and in income...Let alone re-building a network of locals I could connect with about our specialized niches - I am still going through the growing pains of this process. I also hired an advisor to help me with the transition, because well, just like the 10 free growth strategies post, I knew I couldn't do it alone.

But today, I'd like to report that today's tears were happy tears, because despite starting over, I had a reminder tonight when my last client for 2018 texted me their job offer to a respected silicon valley tech company (Zuora)! They were one of the athletes transitioning to civilian life, and I couldn't be more proud of them! I needed to be reminded that no matter how rough this transition has been in many areas of my life, one of my favorite things is celebrating other people's wins, especially ones I'm working with!

And as I am learning to share more about me and what I do, instead of giving vague, awkward statements about higher ed, my side hustle, and what not, I thought I'd do a re-cap of client celebrations in 2018!

I feel very honored, and positively overwhelmed tonight getting the opportunity to celebrate these incredible people:

*indicates volunteer/partner/sponsor role & due to client confidentiality, you may inbox me for details, but unfortunately cannot give out identity details unless given permission.

  • Coached 2 side hustlers that made their side hustle come to real life
  • Coached 4 athletes transitioning from D1 sports to civilian life
  • Coached 1 semi pro league athlete transitioning careers; including a player rights agreement
  • Coached 3 clients in career changes; consultations and resume/cover letter make overs 
  • Coached 4 pageant titleholders in interview prep work (All 4 placed in top 5, including 1 divisional winner in ANTSO and 1 winner winning a full scholarship to Virginia State University)
  • Advised 1 pageant titleholder transitioning into a full time career while remaining a Miss titleholder for a major system
  • Recruited pageant judges for 3 MAO locals*, 2 TEEN USA state pageants, AP Nationals*, AEM Nationals*, 2 NAM state pageants, & 1 INTL Jr Miss state pageant, SUNBURST
  • Advised 1 fashion designer for committee assembly & line production
  • Coached 1 fashion journalist in a 2018 journalism contest - received job at TEEN Vogue
  • Advised 1 non profit board about values and diversity; Hired their college ambassadors 
  • Advised mayoral candidate and College President on talking points of college graduation attainment through career options in their city and state post graduation*
  • Advised 1 start up CEO on talking points of K-12 to higher ed pipeline
  • Advised 2 non profit board/CEOs on talking points of K-12 to higher ed pipeline
  • Advisor in Seattle Fashion Week - Hiring of production staff; Selection committee of fashion designers and runway production teams 
And what's not listed, but should get credit, is that there were over 50...yes OVER 50 people I referred to OTHER people. Because I know what I am good at, and areas I am not talented in...and I know some clients will be better serviced with a different company or person. I refuse to collect $ in areas I am not experienced in or will not assist in the intended results of a potential client.

Which is why I've been working on a referral directory for my clients. If you have a service you think could benefit the type of clientele I serve, please email me your information at info@jaymealexis.com, and we can connect on the details!

I like living in a world where we are all living lives we really love. Lives that we don't have to water down, lives that are as real in reality as they are on social media. Lives we aren't constantly branding because they are so authentically us. 

That is a wish for myself, for my loved ones, and for every client I work with. 



10 Free Strategies for Growth Management

Wednesday, December 19, 2018


Failure is inevitable. It can be timing, out of your control, personal circumstances, or being on an unequal playing field. We ALL have been there. But I want to talk about self induced failure.

Self induced failure is what I liked to call - you knew how to avoid a failed result, but you proceeded with the path you chose anyway. Whether it be pride, greed, poor advice, ego, impulsiveness, etc....I mean, I know I've been there many a times.

And…self induced failure is usually a result of not evolving aka not growing with the change. Look at every major company flop. Look at every well known FORMER CEO, athlete, whatever it is...if they were not changing the formula for a winning strategy year to year….they didn’t come out with the gold medal, the winning sales, or even an existing company. Examples - Yahoo, Coach Doughtery, and no one even remembers the CEO of Apple post Steve Jobs the first time...Exactly…

Winning isn’t everything. I’m about the journey too. But I also think we set goals to also get the intended outcome as much as we do to gain the experience along the way.

So, in the last month, I’ve compiled 10 strategies from the following contributors, the advice may not be new, but has proved to work in managing growth & building a company or trust with employees/audience. I also don’t find it ironic that all of the contributors overlapped on many of their sentiments.

Contributors: In no particular order, I went with who responded first.
A Playboy Bunny (Her real name can’t be released, but if you want to touch base with her email me at info@jaymealexis.com)
    Career Coach - Kyle
      Pageant Coach - Elaiza
        Doula - Dav
          Fashion & Foodie Blogger - Teresa
            TV Host - Wendi
              Pageant Planet & Pageant Contestant - Paige
                Marketing Extraordinaire & Maxim Model Contestant - Hayden
                  Ready Set Glow CEO - Mojan
                    Eat Train Run Repeat - Jill
                      X Games Winner - Matt
                        So Oakland CEO - Shayla
                        10 FREE strategies

                        Change doesn’t mean changing your values, but you have to figure out how do you present your values to a world that is ever changing.


                        Competition is HEALTHY. Stop comparing yourself and reach out to your competition, get to know who they are...be-friend them.


                        You can’t do it alone...you need to make connections, find mentors, create a personal board of directors.


                        Treat your business seriously or no one else will.


                        Growing pains are temporary...and cheesy sayings make my eyes roll too, but it’s real that you have temporary pain for long term gain.


                        Remove or put aside things/people on the back burner that don’t belong in your life. Friends that aren’t good for you. Family that is negative and brings you down. Things that you don’t use.
                        Clothes you don’t wear. Shit that keeps you from evolving.

                        Be kind to everyone and treat people well; engage with your employees and your customers regularly about things that actually matter.


                        Be consistent.


                        Know your mission, value, and brand, know what you stand for.


                        Having too much pride or a big ego ends in isolation.


                        Stop making excuses.

                        If you think you know everything or learned everything, you've already failed.


                        20 Years with American Pageants

                        Wednesday, December 5, 2018

                        2019 National Titleholders - photo by My Heart's Desire

                        20 years.


                        Besides a few friendships, 20 years is the longest I’ve ever committed to anything in my life. 2 weeks ago I was at the 35th Anniversary of American Pageants, formerly known as Miss Teen of America.


                        My affiliation with the program was in 1998 when my Mom convinced me to be in this scholarship program called Little Miss of SD. From contestant to honor court member in the Teen division, I went on to choreograph, emcee, judge, direct at the state level, and then at some point recruited judges for our state, regional, and national pageant.


                        This program has been my consistent and familiar long after leaving my parents home, it’s the 1 thing I’ve taken with me on the journey of a dozen zip codes from South Dakota (minus my car, but even she was put to rest in November).


                        The program took a break with the transition of leadership and I won’t forget in April of 2016, getting a call from our President that she wanted me on the team. I had just quit a job I hated and moved to my dream city San Francisco while I shared a home with 4 other people. I was hustling as much as I could on the side and in my work as a Fashion Design Advisor to live in the most expensive city in America (We had just surpassed New York City - Manhattan). This offer was a piece of home that to me in a space I was just easing into.


                        It is easy to list off the reasons why I love this program. From recognizing all girls and women for their achievements, the lifelong friendships, teaching girls/women that we are not each other’s competition - that we are our biggest competition,  the life skills - interviewing, resumes, and personal development...all fundamentals that are evident everywhere in our pageant’s history and present. That’s just the shortlist.


                        But I think it’s more than what’s on our social media, it goes beyond how it prepared me for a college essay or a job interview, it's prepared me for womanhood:


                        I text our President a week after the pageant that if it weren’t for some of the advice I had gotten from her and the friends I’ve made in this program, I would have settled in my life - in every aspect. I think I would have taken the first good life that presented itself. But that first path was not meant for me at 18 when I graduated high school, at 22 when I moved to Los Angeles, or at 24 when I finished graduate school, or now at 29 - where I am just feeling like life is just getting started!


                        This pageant has kept my character accountable. It’s really easy to cut corners and to copy/paste what’s out there. It’s easy to not be original and to replicate what’s been done. I would have made very different life choices in college, in relationships, and in situations that I could have taken an easier path, and no one would have known. But that wouldn’t have been nearly as satisfying. On this same note, it also taught me to take RISKS. To explore, discover, to find what works for me. There are so many paths out there, that this pageant family no matter what decision I've made (even if they disagreed) has supported my journey of becoming.


                        Finally, this pageant taught me to CELEBRATE. We get so caught up in achievement, that achievement becomes the benchmark in all that we do. It’s why I’ve felt devastated after break ups, dissolving friendships, etc. Because I’ve been trained my entire life that achievement is what matters, and everything including things related to the human heart has a formula for winning…and obviously finding out that couldn’t be further from the truth. And by all means, achievement matters, it’s just not the only thing that matters. This pageant is a reminder to pause, and to recognize how far we’ve come...and that we can achieve, list out everything on a resume, and so forth, but what value is that if we can’t appreciate ourselves?

                        My trophies, plaques, tiaras, and sashes sit with dust at my parents house. But everything I’ve mentioned here are the most valued things someone can say about me - that I don't settle, my character matters, & that I celebrate the achievements of others and myself.


                        American Pageants & our AP fam, thank you for a decorated 20 years. I love the way you’ve shaped my womanhood in every possible way.

                        American Pageants, 2 years in a row has been named Top 10 Teen Pageant & Top 10 Best National Pageant by the Pageant Planet.

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