Open Floor Plan

Thursday, December 27, 2018

San Francisco - Spring 2018

This morning, I looked at my half full closet and 80% occupied dresser...with much space for more stuff...but also feeling like I don't even need all the space I have. A sweet reminder of how much space I've created for the unexpected and how stuff really doesn't make me any happier.

2018 has been more than enough for me, and this is how it has shown up...

I am thriving in my own skin. I listen to my body, and I am learning to rest.

I am loving God and faith without constraints of what it should look like.

Writing. I've had so much time to write and blog, and co-blog with beloveds.

Continuing sacred's and rituals - cousin facetimes, bestie birthdays, 3rd of July reunions, pageants over Thanksgiving, 4th annual Giants game, and a yearly hello email to all my former student leaders and teams.

Co working dates, daily starbucks runs, and new happy hour spots.

Got to officiate my besties' wedding; Saw Drake in concert; Traveled to Mexico City.

Hosted 26 visitors between San Francisco and WA.

Walked through the streets of San Francisco after a rowdy rooftop bar night.

Went go carting on the gravel roads passing through my family's acres on a warm July evening.

Felt the worn out moving boxes holding my belongings that are mostly gifts and the art I feel connected to.

And with who I've become and what I've done, this is where it has left me into 2019;

I miss driving on the Bay bridge into San Francisco at night. The lights were bright enough to reflect off the water and warm enough to make me feel at home.

But the green and precipitation of the Seattle sound is enough to nourish my soul, and I know I'm blooming in a season of what feels like starting over, but really it's just a continuation.

Love really does exist.

I also learned what it meant to let go of someone you have love for because that's what that person really needs...and also hoping the absolute best for them.

I like my grey hairs and wrinkles around my eyes, and the stretch marks on my thighs. It shows a well lived body participating in the life in front of me.

My smile feels so real; My heart is a direct line to my smile.

Getting to see the fridge with my loved ones holiday cards on it - each one of them drenched in memories.

I like moons, flowers, reading books that I bought so long ago, but never had the capacity to indulge in. I love celebrating. I like cheering people on. I love all the things that make others feel good about themselves.

I'm operating this next chapter of life like an open floor plan.

My family is healthy, strong, and very happy. That's probably the highlight of this all.

Experiences over things.
Presence over presents.
Humanity over perfection.

& Turning 30 this year, and I feel like life is just getting started!

South Dakota - Summer 2018
Seattle - Winter 2018

Jayme Alexis LLC - In Review 2018

Sunday, December 23, 2018


No matter what you saw on social media...transitioning a business to a different state and retaining clientele that are willing to do virtual communication over face to face was a major loss for me in motivation and in income...Let alone re-building a network of locals I could connect with about our specialized niches - I am still going through the growing pains of this process. I also hired an advisor to help me with the transition, because well, just like the 10 free growth strategies post, I knew I couldn't do it alone.

But today, I'd like to report that today's tears were happy tears, because despite starting over, I had a reminder tonight when my last client for 2018 texted me their job offer to a respected silicon valley tech company (Zuora)! They were one of the athletes transitioning to civilian life, and I couldn't be more proud of them! I needed to be reminded that no matter how rough this transition has been in many areas of my life, one of my favorite things is celebrating other people's wins, especially ones I'm working with!

And as I am learning to share more about me and what I do, instead of giving vague, awkward statements about higher ed, my side hustle, and what not, I thought I'd do a re-cap of client celebrations in 2018!

I feel very honored, and positively overwhelmed tonight getting the opportunity to celebrate these incredible people:

*indicates volunteer/partner/sponsor role & due to client confidentiality, you may inbox me for details, but unfortunately cannot give out identity details unless given permission.

  • Coached 2 side hustlers that made their side hustle come to real life
  • Coached 4 athletes transitioning from D1 sports to civilian life
  • Coached 1 semi pro league athlete transitioning careers; including a player rights agreement
  • Coached 3 clients in career changes; consultations and resume/cover letter make overs 
  • Coached 4 pageant titleholders in interview prep work (All 4 placed in top 5, including 1 divisional winner in ANTSO and 1 winner winning a full scholarship to Virginia State University)
  • Advised 1 pageant titleholder transitioning into a full time career while remaining a Miss titleholder for a major system
  • Recruited pageant judges for 3 MAO locals*, 2 TEEN USA state pageants, AP Nationals*, AEM Nationals*, 2 NAM state pageants, & 1 INTL Jr Miss state pageant, SUNBURST
  • Advised 1 fashion designer for committee assembly & line production
  • Coached 1 fashion journalist in a 2018 journalism contest - received job at TEEN Vogue
  • Advised 1 non profit board about values and diversity; Hired their college ambassadors 
  • Advised mayoral candidate and College President on talking points of college graduation attainment through career options in their city and state post graduation*
  • Advised 1 start up CEO on talking points of K-12 to higher ed pipeline
  • Advised 2 non profit board/CEOs on talking points of K-12 to higher ed pipeline
  • Advisor in Seattle Fashion Week - Hiring of production staff; Selection committee of fashion designers and runway production teams 
And what's not listed, but should get credit, is that there were over 50...yes OVER 50 people I referred to OTHER people. Because I know what I am good at, and areas I am not talented in...and I know some clients will be better serviced with a different company or person. I refuse to collect $ in areas I am not experienced in or will not assist in the intended results of a potential client.

Which is why I've been working on a referral directory for my clients. If you have a service you think could benefit the type of clientele I serve, please email me your information at info@jaymealexis.com, and we can connect on the details!

I like living in a world where we are all living lives we really love. Lives that we don't have to water down, lives that are as real in reality as they are on social media. Lives we aren't constantly branding because they are so authentically us. 

That is a wish for myself, for my loved ones, and for every client I work with. 



10 Free Strategies for Growth Management

Wednesday, December 19, 2018


Failure is inevitable. It can be timing, out of your control, personal circumstances, or being on an unequal playing field. We ALL have been there. But I want to talk about self induced failure.

Self induced failure is what I liked to call - you knew how to avoid a failed result, but you proceeded with the path you chose anyway. Whether it be pride, greed, poor advice, ego, impulsiveness, etc....I mean, I know I've been there many a times.

And…self induced failure is usually a result of not evolving aka not growing with the change. Look at every major company flop. Look at every well known FORMER CEO, athlete, whatever it is...if they were not changing the formula for a winning strategy year to year….they didn’t come out with the gold medal, the winning sales, or even an existing company. Examples - Yahoo, Coach Doughtery, and no one even remembers the CEO of Apple post Steve Jobs the first time...Exactly…

Winning isn’t everything. I’m about the journey too. But I also think we set goals to also get the intended outcome as much as we do to gain the experience along the way.

So, in the last month, I’ve compiled 10 strategies from the following contributors, the advice may not be new, but has proved to work in managing growth & building a company or trust with employees/audience. I also don’t find it ironic that all of the contributors overlapped on many of their sentiments.

Contributors: In no particular order, I went with who responded first.
A Playboy Bunny (Her real name can’t be released, but if you want to touch base with her email me at info@jaymealexis.com)
    Career Coach - Kyle
      Pageant Coach - Elaiza
        Doula - Dav
          Fashion & Foodie Blogger - Teresa
            TV Host - Wendi
              Pageant Planet & Pageant Contestant - Paige
                Marketing Extraordinaire & Maxim Model Contestant - Hayden
                  Ready Set Glow CEO - Mojan
                    Eat Train Run Repeat - Jill
                      X Games Winner - Matt
                        So Oakland CEO - Shayla
                        10 FREE strategies

                        Change doesn’t mean changing your values, but you have to figure out how do you present your values to a world that is ever changing.


                        Competition is HEALTHY. Stop comparing yourself and reach out to your competition, get to know who they are...be-friend them.


                        You can’t do it alone...you need to make connections, find mentors, create a personal board of directors.


                        Treat your business seriously or no one else will.


                        Growing pains are temporary...and cheesy sayings make my eyes roll too, but it’s real that you have temporary pain for long term gain.


                        Remove or put aside things/people on the back burner that don’t belong in your life. Friends that aren’t good for you. Family that is negative and brings you down. Things that you don’t use.
                        Clothes you don’t wear. Shit that keeps you from evolving.

                        Be kind to everyone and treat people well; engage with your employees and your customers regularly about things that actually matter.


                        Be consistent.


                        Know your mission, value, and brand, know what you stand for.


                        Having too much pride or a big ego ends in isolation.


                        Stop making excuses.

                        If you think you know everything or learned everything, you've already failed.


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